Just a couple of days ago, I was meditating on why some marriages are not peaceful and successful as they should be. God opened my eyes to see that we need to imbibe the team spirit in our marriages. No wonder the bible says that two shall become one flesh (Genesis 2:24). This simply means that they will become a team. In every team sport, there are no individual losers or winners. If we take football for instance, if a striker scores 3 goals, while the defender lets in more goals, it then means that the team has lost the game. The striker can’t be claiming victory because he scored 3 goals.
So in marriage one of the things we need to do and continue to do in order to have super successful marriage is to imbibe team spirit into our marriages. That means there is no individual loser or winner. The husband and wife must understand that we lose and win together as a team. We have situations, where the man and the woman are in a competition on who will out do each in front of the children. This is not right. We must have a common goal and vision for the family. We must support each other in every way and anyway. We must see ourselves as major stakeholders in every aspect of our marriages/homes.
It baffles me to see men who have never entered the kitchen for once, or worse still have never attempted given the children a bath. If you ask him, he claim that’s not my job, but the woman is also working full time. On the other hand, I have seen women who earn far above their husbands, but will never let go of the money they earn. I just wonder where and when they will spend their money. Please remember we will not be spending earthly currency in heaven.
One day I heard on the radio that a woman built a house and rented the same house to her husband through a third party. What a world. In any case, I didn’t say much, because I didn’t hear the woman’s side of the story. You know “it takes two to tangle”. Please go in there and put in your best. Remember if either the man or the woman is not putting in his/her best, it’s like having 50% of the team not doing well. The bible says in Amos 3:3 “can two work together, except they be agreed”.
I will like to share a personal experience with you. My boy was about two years old when we disengaged our nanny, so we were left on our own. My wife does normal 8 to 5 full time job, while I am self-employed. She leaves home for work much earlier than I do. So in the morning I give my boy bath, prepare him and take him to school. My wife picks him up from school after work and goes through his “home work” with him. This is what we have been doing in the past 3 years, and it’s working like “magic”. What is that? It is the power of team work. We see ourselves as major stakeholders in every aspect of our lives.
In a 21st century world we live now, we must support our spouses, especially the women. In our own part of the world, the woman is under so much pressure, and so needs all the supports she can get from the husband.
Helen Keller said;
“Alone we can do so little, but together we can do so much”
Henry Ford also said;
“Coming together is the beginning
Staying together is progress
Working together is success”.
We must support and work with each other in our marriages/homes for us to be successful.