The Resilience of a Child

Resilience of a Child

The Resilience of a child.

Have you ever wondered at a baby learning how to walk. He/she falls many times. But never gets discouraged. As a matter of fact, the falling and standing up excites him/her. When a baby is born he/she goes through so many stages before he/she start running. The baby starts by sitting down, crawling, standing, walking, and finally before running. In all these stages the baby never gets discouraged.

As adults, what can we learn from this? Simply; perseverance. We have to keep moving until we get to the Promised Land. What is the vision for your life, family, career, e.t.c? Are you giving up easily because of difficulties, mockery or opposition? If you have a vision and you are sure is part of God’s plan for your life, don’t give it up. Keep working at it, and one day all your efforts will pay up, to your greatest surprise. Someone said that if you can’t run, walk, and if you can’t walk, then crawl, but just keep moving and very you soon you will get there.

Why am I bringing up this story? It is because statistically all over the world, divorce rate is rising, and it is rising not because of serious issues, but for very flimsy excuses. People are no longer ready to fight the devil off their marriages. Many are looking for easy route out of marriage, but that is not God’s intention. Take for instance, someone loses his job, and the family is hard on finance; that is not a reason for divorce. All you have to do is to trust the Lord for a way out. You have got to look for another job, and if possible retrain yourself and go out there to make a living. We have to persevere in our marriages. We have to stick together as a TEAM to make things work. As believers, we have to push the devil out of our marriages. It has always been my utmost belief that if husband and wife stick together they can achieve a lot. Are you facing challenges in your marriage today? Tomorrow will be great if both of you can belief and come together and seek the face of our Lord Jesus Christ. With perseverance you will WIN AGAIN. Remember the Bible says in Galatians 6 vs 9;

” And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not”

Remain ever blessed.

Have a wonderful day.




I heard a story some years ago that got me thinking. A man whose wife was a “sit at home” mum always complained about the state of the home whenever he comes back home from work. If the man noticed any item not in the proper place, he will be upset and will ask the wife what she was doing at home all day long. According to the man, the woman had very little doing at home, since her only job was just to take care of the kids.

When I heard the first part of this story, I just said that this man doesn’t have the slightest idea what it takes to take care of kids. The job of taking care of kids is not EASY. This is exactly what happened. After sometime, the wife said that she was going to her parents for holiday for two weeks and the man should take time off work, and take care of the kids. The man was excited at the prospect of taking care of the kids. To cut a long story short, the excitement lasted only two days. He was torn apart by the kids. He couldn’t cope with the pressure, and he came to realise that the job (or should I say jobs, because taking care of kids is more than one job) was not an easy one. He called the wife to please come back and help.

This doesn’t happen in our homes alone, it cuts across all our endeavours including; our churches, offices, businesses. We have the tendency to believe that what we are doing is more important than what others are doing, but that is not right. We should appreciate other positive contributions from other members of the team, and possible give them a pat in the back.

We should appreciate the positive contributions our partner brings to the table. If both partners are working and making contributions, we should appreciate each other. Also if you have the traditional kind of family setting, where the man is working and the woman is at home, we should appreciate what both are bringing to the table. Never despise your spouse’s contribution because you are a team, and if one is disregarded there will be a problem.

Remember Amos 3:3;

“Can two walk together, except they be agreed?”

Remain blessed




If you live in my part of the world, this will definitely resonate with you. Have you ever wondered why people are so concerned about the gender of their babies?

I have seen people who just get upset because their first child is not male. You also see quite a lot of people who will tell you that I have 3 daughters and I need a son. Others will tell you, I have two sons and trying for a daughter. I just keep wondering what difference it makes.

I believe that you should, as part of your family planning, determine how many children you can adequately cater for from the beginning. Having extra child simply because of sex issue is really funny. We are behaving as if children are products you just order online, and if you don’t like them, you return them. There is no return policy for children. More importantly, we have an obligation to cater adequately for every child. Having a child is a great responsibility . I just wonder how angry God will be if God was man. We have seen people who are crying unto God if only He can give them just one child; and then they are people who are not pleased with what God has given them, simply because of the Sex of the child. We live in a strange world. Isn’t it? As a matter of fact I heard of a man that the wife gave birth, and when he came to hospital, the first question he asked was the sex of the child and when they told him, he simply got angry and walked away. What a shame!

I grew up with my mother, and one of the things that my mother taught me, was that every child is precious, and there is no difference between a male child and female child. As a matter of fact, my mother made sure that I learnt how to cook right at an early age. I was already cooking proper meals at age 10-11. This was funny because then, and to a great extent now, females are the ones that are expected to be in the kitchen in my culture. It was not common for a mother to insist that a male child should be a “customer” to the kitchen. It has hugely paid off for me. Now I don’t have to wait for my wife to come back from work and make food for me. Why should I wait for her? We both have the responsibility to see that the home runs smoothly; so it doesn’t matter who comes home first. We are a team, and not just a team, but a super responsible and successful team.

Friends, let us celebrates our children; male or female, it doesn’t matter. These are wonderful gifts from God. Every child has great potentials, and as parents, we have an obligation to nurture the child, and lead him/her in the way of the Lord, so that the child can fulfill his/her destiny. Please remember these;

Galatians 3 vs 28: “There is neither Jew nor Greek. There is neither bond nor free. There is neither male nor female: for ye are all one in Christ”
Psalm 127 vs 3: Lo, children are an heritage of the Lord and the fruit of the womb is his reward

Remain ever blessed.

In a world of outsourcing; don’t outsource the children.



In a world of outsourcing; don’t outsource the children.

Today we live in a fast moving world, almost everything is outsourced and “made easy”. Some eateries have the “drive through” where you can easily get your orders as you drive through. Supermarkets have “ready made” meals including soups you can buy and take home and it will appear as a homemade meal. We hardly have time to cook proper meals at home these days

Companies in one continent outsourcing their customer care business to other companies in another continent. For instance, you can call a company in Europe and someone in India will answer.

We can outsource almost everything, but there’s one aspect of our lives that we must not outsource, and that is our children. We can’t be too busy to have time to take care of our children. No matter the work schedule, we must make it a point of duty to have time to communicate with our children. In our society today, we have seen situations where parents have left the care of children entirely in the hands of domestic staff, Governments and schools. This is a major problem all over the world today. This has led to children being instruments in the hands of terrible groups, like terrorists and drugs addicts. The foundational and fundamental care for children must come from the parents. Other groups, like domestic staff, schools, only have complimentary roles to play. These children are precious gift from God and we must not allow anyone to tamper with their destinies.

Parents must understand that the children are their responsibility, and so must bring up their children in manner that God wants us to do it. I can hear someone say I am very busy. No parent should ever use work as excuse not to care for the children. As parents, you must create time around your schedules to look after your children and see how they are faring in every aspect of their lives including school work, spiritual growth e.t.c.. You can’t be too busy for your children. I will like to say that we have time for anything of value to us. Time is a function of priorities. We will always have time for the things we value most. Remember Proverbs 22 vs 6
“Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it”
Remain ever blessed.

Set early “Markers” for children


It is important for parents to know that it is our responsibility to set the sense of direction for which our children will go before they are adults. No matter how smart a child is, he/she is still a child, so it is important we start early to show them care , love and very importantly proper “home training”. Please start early to introduce them to things that will be of immense help to their lives and by extension your lives too.

Back in our days in school, our teachers were more concerned about noise in the classroom and lateness. Today teachers are more concerned about drug addiction, sexual immorality, cultism and violence among pupils. Times have really changed.

Please remember that the child you over pamper today will temper with your future tomorrow, and by extension the society’s peace.

Introduce your child early to our Lord, so as to shape their lives appropriately. Remember that the bible says “Train up a child the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it, (Proverbs 22:6). Make it a point of duty to take them to church any time you are going to church as much as possible. Let them learn to read the bible early enough

It is important to let the children know the importance of studying both their school books and other materials to help in developing their reading culture and their brain. Please be very careful with things like cartoons and television. You must set limits for cartoons and television.

Love and care
Let the children know the importance of love and care for others around them including; parents, school mates, church members and others. This is most effective, if you as parents lead by example by showing love and care to your child and others as well

I must acknowledge that times have changed. We live in a new dispensation, so the methods and ways of making sure that a child has a proper “home training” may have changed but the TRUTH has not changed. Parents must take personal responsibility to set standards for their children. Please don’t leave the discipline of your children to domestic staff. Remember that domestic staff come and go, but you are always there with your children. Be wise.

House chores and personal hygiene
We live in a world of rights and no responsibilities. A child should know that in addition to his/her rights, he/she has some responsibilities as well. Please start early to let a child take some responsibilities. My son knows that immediately after eating he should take the plates to the kitchen. Things like clearing the table, putting your shoes in the appropriate place, doing the dishes, cooking and washing goes a long way, depending on the age of the child. Please start early before it’s too late.

Greeting and courtesy:
A child should learn to greet and also imbibe little but very important courtesies like; please, thank you, and others. Remain ever blessed.