Substance, not Prejudice.



Some years back, I read in the papers the story of a lady, who was very sad because her mother refused her to marry a man she wanted to marry when she was young. The story was that the lady immediately she finished from the University went for National Youth Service, there she met a young man who was also in service and both of them fell in love, and was about to get married. The lady brought the young man to her mother, but the mother was totally against the marriage, and asked the lady not to marry him, but rather look for another man. What was the reason for the mother’s refusal? It is simply because they are not from the same tribe. What a shame!

To cut a long story short, the lady obeyed the mother and after sometime, the man moved on. The man later got married and now has his family with children, but the lady ever since has not met any man for marriage. She has grown old now and totally bitter towards her mother. According to her, she has lost hope of ever getting married in her life.

What can we learn from this story? We must understand that what is important in life is not our race, colour, birthplace e.t.c. what is more important in life is who we are inside, not outside. The inner man according to the bible is the real man. When we are dealing with people let us put aside prejudice, but rather look for substance, be it at work, in our community or concerning marriage. When we are making our choices, we should be more concerned about our character, and what each one brings to the table, rather than the colour of our skin or which part of the country/world we come from. Remember 1 Samuel 16:7

               “But the LORD said unto Samuel, look not on his countenance, or on the height of his stature; because I have refused him:    for the LORD seeth not as man seeth; for man looketh on the outward appearance, but the LORD looketh on the heart”.

Remain ever blessed