Valentine Lessons


As we celebrate ST, Valentine’s Day, popular called the “Day of love”, it will be important to draw some lessons from the act of love exhibited by St. Valentine, which has attracted many to the story concerning him. There is no better time to share this story and learn some lessons than now. I have seen people express love to one another only to turn and hurt the same people they say they love. Love is not just in words, but in deeds, and not just in deeds, but good and excellent deeds. Someone said “you can give without loving, but you can’t love without giving”.

Statistics abound today all over the world that shows that the divorce rate is higher than it was some years ago. The same goes for domestic violence, with greater percentage of victims being women and children.

Our perfect example is our Lord Jesus Christ who laid down His life for the sake of mankind. St Valentine also drawing from the grace of Lord Jesus Christ did the same for the love of others. How great and lasting our marriages/homes would have been today all over the world if we imbibe the same spirit of love exhibited by our Lord Jesus Christ, as practiced by St. Valentine.

From the love story of St. Valentine, I have drawn three lessons, which I think is very useful today in our marriages/homes. And you can add your own if you so desire, because the list is not exhaustive.

1. Love is sacrificial
St Valentine sacrificed his freedom and life for others. This is a man in spite of the dangers to his life still went ahead to conduct Christian marriages for young people. In our marriages/home we should strive to live a life of sacrifice. Remember our perfect example is in Christ who said in John 15 vs 12-13 that;

“This is my commandment, that you love one another, as I have loved you. Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends”

2. Love is selfless.
The second lesson from the story of St. Valentine is that he was selfless in his service to mankind. He did all he did not for his own benefit, but for the benefit of others. How glorious it will be if we can dedicate ourselves to serve the interest of our spouses and children in Marriages/homes. Some people are only concerned about “me”, “myself” and “I”. This has led to so much tension in our homes today. Remember the teaching of our Lord Jesus Christ in Matthew 20 vs. 26

“And whosoever will be chief among you, let him be your servant”

As a Christian, I am called to serve, and my home is a perfect “Service Station”. You too can serve in your home today.

3. Love defies all odds.
St, Valentine defied all odds to practice his faith, and to do what he believed was right. There are many who have left their marriages/homes simply because of little challenges. Some are at the verge of divorce right now because of one challenge or the other. It is very easy for people to give up these days under the slightest discomfort. Please remember that tough times don’t last, but tough people do

As we celebrate St. Valentine’s Day today, let us celebrate in REAL LOVE

You are complete and settled already


You are complete and settled already

How many times do you hear people say (especially our sisters) that I want to get married and settle down. Some people feel that until they are married, they are not complete or settled. I have good news for you. The moment you give your life to Christ you are settled and complete. The fall of man at the Garden of Eden (Genesis 3v1-19) made man to be incomplete; because man is made of spirit, soul and body; so at the fall, the spirit man died, but Christ has redeemed us from that curse and has made us complete.(Ephesians 1 v 7)

Every single must have the mentality that he/she is settled and complete in Christ. It is not marriage that makes you complete. Remember that the bible says you are fearfully and wonderfully made, (Psalm 139v14); so go out there and give your life the best shot because you are created for success. Don’t ever allow anyone to dampen your enthusiasm for life simply because you are not married yet

You are settled, complete and have a glorious destiny in Christ. Remember nobody can oppress you without your permission, so don’t allow anyone (including the devil) the permission to do so. You are created for the top. Remain ever blessed