The Resilience of a Child

Resilience of a Child

The Resilience of a child.

Have you ever wondered at a baby learning how to walk. He/she falls many times. But never gets discouraged. As a matter of fact, the falling and standing up excites him/her. When a baby is born he/she goes through so many stages before he/she start running. The baby starts by sitting down, crawling, standing, walking, and finally before running. In all these stages the baby never gets discouraged.

As adults, what can we learn from this? Simply; perseverance. We have to keep moving until we get to the Promised Land. What is the vision for your life, family, career, e.t.c? Are you giving up easily because of difficulties, mockery or opposition? If you have a vision and you are sure is part of God’s plan for your life, don’t give it up. Keep working at it, and one day all your efforts will pay up, to your greatest surprise. Someone said that if you can’t run, walk, and if you can’t walk, then crawl, but just keep moving and very you soon you will get there.

Why am I bringing up this story? It is because statistically all over the world, divorce rate is rising, and it is rising not because of serious issues, but for very flimsy excuses. People are no longer ready to fight the devil off their marriages. Many are looking for easy route out of marriage, but that is not God’s intention. Take for instance, someone loses his job, and the family is hard on finance; that is not a reason for divorce. All you have to do is to trust the Lord for a way out. You have got to look for another job, and if possible retrain yourself and go out there to make a living. We have to persevere in our marriages. We have to stick together as a TEAM to make things work. As believers, we have to push the devil out of our marriages. It has always been my utmost belief that if husband and wife stick together they can achieve a lot. Are you facing challenges in your marriage today? Tomorrow will be great if both of you can belief and come together and seek the face of our Lord Jesus Christ. With perseverance you will WIN AGAIN. Remember the Bible says in Galatians 6 vs 9;

” And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not”

Remain ever blessed.

Have a wonderful day.

Substance, not Prejudice.

Substance

SUBSTANCE, NOT PREJUDICE.

Some years back, I read in the papers the story of a lady, who was very sad because her mother refused her to marry a man she wanted to marry when she was young. The story was that the lady immediately she finished from the University went for National Youth Service, there she met a young man who was also in service and both of them fell in love, and was about to get married. The lady brought the young man to her mother, but the mother was totally against the marriage, and asked the lady not to marry him, but rather look for another man. What was the reason for the mother’s refusal? It is simply because they are not from the same tribe. What a shame!

To cut a long story short, the lady obeyed the mother and after sometime, the man moved on. The man later got married and now has his family with children, but the lady ever since has not met any man for marriage. She has grown old now and totally bitter towards her mother. According to her, she has lost hope of ever getting married in her life.

What can we learn from this story? We must understand that what is important in life is not our race, colour, birthplace e.t.c. what is more important in life is who we are inside, not outside. The inner man according to the bible is the real man. When we are dealing with people let us put aside prejudice, but rather look for substance, be it at work, in our community or concerning marriage. When we are making our choices, we should be more concerned about our character, and what each one brings to the table, rather than the colour of our skin or which part of the country/world we come from. Remember 1 Samuel 16:7

               “But the LORD said unto Samuel, look not on his countenance, or on the height of his stature; because I have refused him:    for the LORD seeth not as man seeth; for man looketh on the outward appearance, but the LORD looketh on the heart”.

Remain ever blessed

KIDS: MORE THAN A JOB

KIDS MORE THAN A JOB

KIDS: IT’S MORE THAN A JOB!

I heard a story some years ago that got me thinking. A man whose wife was a “sit at home” mum always complained about the state of the home whenever he comes back home from work. If the man noticed any item not in the proper place, he will be upset and will ask the wife what she was doing at home all day long. According to the man, the woman had very little doing at home, since her only job was just to take care of the kids.

When I heard the first part of this story, I just said that this man doesn’t have the slightest idea what it takes to take care of kids. The job of taking care of kids is not EASY. This is exactly what happened. After sometime, the wife said that she was going to her parents for holiday for two weeks and the man should take time off work, and take care of the kids. The man was excited at the prospect of taking care of the kids. To cut a long story short, the excitement lasted only two days. He was torn apart by the kids. He couldn’t cope with the pressure, and he came to realise that the job (or should I say jobs, because taking care of kids is more than one job) was not an easy one. He called the wife to please come back and help.

This doesn’t happen in our homes alone, it cuts across all our endeavours including; our churches, offices, businesses. We have the tendency to believe that what we are doing is more important than what others are doing, but that is not right. We should appreciate other positive contributions from other members of the team, and possible give them a pat in the back.

We should appreciate the positive contributions our partner brings to the table. If both partners are working and making contributions, we should appreciate each other. Also if you have the traditional kind of family setting, where the man is working and the woman is at home, we should appreciate what both are bringing to the table. Never despise your spouse’s contribution because you are a team, and if one is disregarded there will be a problem.

Remember Amos 3:3;

“Can two walk together, except they be agreed?”

Remain blessed

MALE OR FEMALE: DOES IT REALLY MATTER?

MALE OR FEMALE

MALE OR FEMALE: DOES IT REALLY MATTER?

If you live in my part of the world, this will definitely resonate with you. Have you ever wondered why people are so concerned about the gender of their babies?

I have seen people who just get upset because their first child is not male. You also see quite a lot of people who will tell you that I have 3 daughters and I need a son. Others will tell you, I have two sons and trying for a daughter. I just keep wondering what difference it makes.

I believe that you should, as part of your family planning, determine how many children you can adequately cater for from the beginning. Having extra child simply because of sex issue is really funny. We are behaving as if children are products you just order online, and if you don’t like them, you return them. There is no return policy for children. More importantly, we have an obligation to cater adequately for every child. Having a child is a great responsibility . I just wonder how angry God will be if God was man. We have seen people who are crying unto God if only He can give them just one child; and then they are people who are not pleased with what God has given them, simply because of the Sex of the child. We live in a strange world. Isn’t it? As a matter of fact I heard of a man that the wife gave birth, and when he came to hospital, the first question he asked was the sex of the child and when they told him, he simply got angry and walked away. What a shame!

I grew up with my mother, and one of the things that my mother taught me, was that every child is precious, and there is no difference between a male child and female child. As a matter of fact, my mother made sure that I learnt how to cook right at an early age. I was already cooking proper meals at age 10-11. This was funny because then, and to a great extent now, females are the ones that are expected to be in the kitchen in my culture. It was not common for a mother to insist that a male child should be a “customer” to the kitchen. It has hugely paid off for me. Now I don’t have to wait for my wife to come back from work and make food for me. Why should I wait for her? We both have the responsibility to see that the home runs smoothly; so it doesn’t matter who comes home first. We are a team, and not just a team, but a super responsible and successful team.

Friends, let us celebrates our children; male or female, it doesn’t matter. These are wonderful gifts from God. Every child has great potentials, and as parents, we have an obligation to nurture the child, and lead him/her in the way of the Lord, so that the child can fulfill his/her destiny. Please remember these;

Galatians 3 vs 28: “There is neither Jew nor Greek. There is neither bond nor free. There is neither male nor female: for ye are all one in Christ”
Psalm 127 vs 3: Lo, children are an heritage of the Lord and the fruit of the womb is his reward

Remain ever blessed.

Learning from Mother Eagle

Mother Eagle

LEARNING FROM MOTHER EAGLE

I just watched a video of a mother eagle teaching the baby how to catch a fish. I know it could have been easier for the mother to just catch the fish and give to the baby, but she didn’t want to do that. If she doesn’t teach her, she will never learn, and so will remain a baby forever. What a story.

I brought this story out because I believe it is a good lesson for us as parents over our children. It is a known fact that we love our children dearly, but then there are still things you have to teach your children to do on their own. Some parents, because of the “love” they have for the child want to do or give everything to the child. As a parent you can’t do or give everything to your child. No matter the love you have for your child, there are things he/she has to learn to do for proper growing up. For example you can’t love your child so much and want to write exam for him/her. That will amount to fraud.

We must understand that obstacles and challenges are part of life. There are obstacles that you need to overcome to go the next level of your life as a child. For instance, a student needs to pass an exam to be able to be promoted to the next class.

It is important that we start teaching our children to start taking some responsibilities right from an early stage of life. We live in a strange world where a lot of children are taught only about their rights without responsibilities. The end result is a disaster

The following points may be of help. You too can add your own points and make it better, namely;

Don’t buy everything your child requests. Moderate what you buy. Children want everything they see, but you have to start early to let them know that money has to be budgeted for, because you don’t have all the money in the world. I have a common “line” for my 6 year old; “have you asked me if I have the money to buy what you are requesting”. That has stayed with him, so he has to ask first before making most of his requests. You hear him say “Daddy, please do you have money to buy ice cream for me?”

Give your child some tasks to do at home. Allow your child to do some tasks at home so as to help him/her know he/she has some responsibilities. The following can be helpful, depending on the age of the child

o Washing dishes
o Dressing bed properly
o Putting away shoes to the appropriate place
o Putting away plates after meals
o Cooking meals
o E.t.c

Encourage your child to do volunteer work and summer holiday jobs. If you have a young adult in the high school or University and depending on the age encourage him/her to take up volunteer or summer holiday jobs. Please do this within the laws prevalent in your home country. For example, a University student can take up summer holiday job that will enable him/her to earn some money, which he/she can use to buy one or two things when school resumes. This will boost his/her confidence concerning life. It doesn’t matter how wealthy the parents are. It is not about the money really, but the act of development that matters more.

Encourage your child to join service units in your local church. This is the most important because it has both spiritual and physical rewards. As your child is serving in the church, he/she is blessed spiritual and physical, and by God’s grace that will take him/her away from negative gangs on the streets. We have equally seen children who discover their God given talents from serving in their local churches. You never can tell. I know some gospel artistes started right from their local churches.

Remember that bible says in Proverbs 22 vs 6;
“Train up a child in the way he should go; and when he is old, he will not depart from it”

Remain ever blessed.

OVERCOMING THE ENEMY CALLED LUCK

LUCK

OVERCOMING THE ENEMY CALLED LUCK
As I walk the streets of Lagos, South West Nigeria, I see quite a lot of people who are involved in lottery hoping to “hit” some big money. These lottery houses are now attracting all manner of people, including; old and young, male and female. When I was much younger, what was prevalent then was “Pool” and almost all their customers where old men, but times have changed. Young people who should be putting their minds to productive use are the main customers to these lottery houses these days. I read a report in the UK some years ago which stated that almost everybody that won big money in jackpot has gone bankrupt.

Even in our churches today, you see some Pastors give the brethren the impression that they can just confess and possess all things, without doing anything. It doesn’t work that way. A typical example is the story of Joseph; people believe that Joseph got a 24 hour miracle from prison to palace, but I beg to disagree. The manifestation of the miracle may be overnight, but the processes that led to the miracle were never overnight. Do you know the steps Joseph took to get to the palace? Let us see what led to the miracle as written in Genesis chapters 37-41;

• The dreams
• The Pit
• Potiphar’s House
• The prison
• The palace

Our marriages are not left out. Today we are seeing this enemy called luck manifesting. People get married hoping that things will just work out on its own. No proper plan/commitment and that is one of the major reasons that the divorce rate is rising by the day. It is equally easy for someone to say that a marriage that is working today is because the people involved are lucky. Please don’t buy into that idea. Only lazy people depend on luck for success. If you desire good marriage, you must take deliberate painstaking steps to achieve that.

Is it not also sad that some parents give birth to children these days without adequate plan to cater for them? Some even believe that since the children are gifts from God that somehow the children will be catered for. What happened to family planning?

Friends, if you are not married, start planning/working for a successful marriage. If you are married and things are not going well, start asking the right questions, and be ready to take the right steps. There is no “free lunch”, even in Freetown. You are created for the top, and so don’t settle for less. Remember:

• Proverbs 12v24 “ The hand of the diligent bear rule: but the slothful shall be under tribute
• Proverbs 21:25 “The desire of the slothful killed him; for his hands refuse to labour
• Proverbs 22 v 29 “seeth thou a man diligent in his business? He shall stand before kings; he shall not stand before mean men
• 2 Chronicles 27 v 6 “ So Jotham became mighty, because he prepared his ways before the LORD his God”

To overcome the enemy called luck in your marriage/home the following among other things are very important, namely;
• Continually remind yourself that you are not a product of accident. God created you for a purpose.
• Ask God your creator to show you the purpose for your life
• Be ready to take steps in fulfilling the purpose as revealed by God.

We shall surely overcome indeed.

Remain ever blessed.